Three Agreements
Dear Ones: I received the following article from Lisa Nichols and I wanted to share it as a communication technique. Dr. Joe
To live fully the life you were given -- to celebrate the divine in you -- it is so important to step up and show the world your innermost soul.
But how?
How do you bare your innermost thoughts and expressions? How do you throw aside the security blanket that's tightly wrapped around and protecting you?
How do you share you with me?
You create what I call a "safe space" with a family member, friend, or coworker. With this person you make the following "three agreements," and then you have a conversation.
Agreement 1: No Judgment
We walk around judging each other, judging ourselves, and receiving judgment all the time. Agree that in this space with each other, there will be no judgment of the other.
And reserve all judgment of yourself, which means you will not beat yourself up for anything you've said or anything you've done. You'll just love yourself through the conversation.
Agreement 2: No Repercussions
What is said in this safe space stays there.
Never use anything said against the other later. If you do bring something up later, you bring it up only -- only -- to lift the other up.
Agreement 3: Unconditional Love
The key word here is "unconditional." While we may love each other and never stop loving each other, so often we stop "showing" each other love.
In this safe space you must agree that no matter what comes up, no matter what comes out, you continue to show the other unconditional love. That means you will not play "love take away."
Love take away is when we stop speaking to each other when we're in the same house...
Love take away is when we go behind closed doors, because the other person says something we disagree with... Love take away is when we make ourselves unavailable, because the other person is being unlovely and unlovable.
Unconditional love says love me when I'm "lovely" and love me when I'm "unlovely."
You may not like who I'm being in the
moment. And you may need to hold me
responsible... but don't stop loving me.
No judgment. No repercussions. Unconditional love.
Use these three agreements to take your relationships to the next level -- and to express your innermost soul! Let your divine light shine!
I love you,
Lisa Nichols
To live fully the life you were given -- to celebrate the divine in you -- it is so important to step up and show the world your innermost soul.
But how?
How do you bare your innermost thoughts and expressions? How do you throw aside the security blanket that's tightly wrapped around and protecting you?
How do you share you with me?
You create what I call a "safe space" with a family member, friend, or coworker. With this person you make the following "three agreements," and then you have a conversation.
Agreement 1: No Judgment
We walk around judging each other, judging ourselves, and receiving judgment all the time. Agree that in this space with each other, there will be no judgment of the other.
And reserve all judgment of yourself, which means you will not beat yourself up for anything you've said or anything you've done. You'll just love yourself through the conversation.
Agreement 2: No Repercussions
What is said in this safe space stays there.
Never use anything said against the other later. If you do bring something up later, you bring it up only -- only -- to lift the other up.
Agreement 3: Unconditional Love
The key word here is "unconditional." While we may love each other and never stop loving each other, so often we stop "showing" each other love.
In this safe space you must agree that no matter what comes up, no matter what comes out, you continue to show the other unconditional love. That means you will not play "love take away."
Love take away is when we stop speaking to each other when we're in the same house...
Love take away is when we go behind closed doors, because the other person says something we disagree with... Love take away is when we make ourselves unavailable, because the other person is being unlovely and unlovable.
Unconditional love says love me when I'm "lovely" and love me when I'm "unlovely."
You may not like who I'm being in the
moment. And you may need to hold me
responsible... but don't stop loving me.
No judgment. No repercussions. Unconditional love.
Use these three agreements to take your relationships to the next level -- and to express your innermost soul! Let your divine light shine!
I love you,
Lisa Nichols
posted by Dr. Joe at 5:17 AM
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